Posted by Remez Sasson | Posted in Happiness, tips | Posted on 04-04-2011 | 
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By Remez Sasson Here are 10 tips to help you start your day with happiness: 1. Wake up 20 minutes earlier than usual. This will give you some free time in the morning, and reduce rush and stress. 2. After waking up, sit on your bed, and repeat in your mind several times the following [...]
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Posted by Remez Sasson | Posted in Happiness | Posted on 14-03-2011 |
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By Sara B. Healy While cleaning my bookshelf the other day, I found a book, 14,000 things to be happy about. It looked brand new, but the date inside was from years ago. This book sat beside my collection of self-help books, which in contrast were dog-eared, highlighted and clearly used. Holding the happiness book, [...]
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Posted by Remez Sasson | Posted in Happiness | Posted on 14-01-2011 |
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By Andrew Leigh Would anyone seriously argue with the saying nobody’s perfect ? Of course not. And yet throughout the world millions of otherwise sane and intelligent people saddle themselves with a life principle that dooms them to frustration and constant disappointment – the desire to do things perfectly. You could argue that setting such [...]
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A while back I gave a guy something he needed in his home. I think I was as blown away by his reaction as he was by getting it. He tried to pay me what he could and kept saying said he owed me. I assured him he owed me nothing and need not pay [...]
Posted by Remez Sasson | Posted in Happiness | Posted on 07-09-2010 |
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By Andrew Leigh Why a little selfishness is good for you – and for everyone else! Have you invested any time on your own wellbeing lately? Well, while I guess some will be able to say yes to that question, many others will be shaking their heads in disbelief. There always seems so [...]
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Posted by raymond | Posted in Happiness, Stress | Posted on 10-08-2010 |
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Image via Wikipedia EQ stands for Emotional Quotient that means the ability of a person to control his or her emotions. The higher your EQ, the better you are at controlling your emotions. Now, the question is, how to increase your EQ? Let me bring you a story. There’s a woman who finds it hard [...]
Posted by Remez Sasson | Posted in Happiness | Posted on 30-07-2010 |
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Make a list of things you enjoy doing. This can be any simple activity, which you love doing, and that can be done in your daily life. Put in the list at least ten items, and then do something from this list every day. From time to time, as you discover more things that you [...]
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Posted by Remez Sasson | Posted in Happiness, Relationships, Work | Posted on 06-07-2010 |
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5 Secrets from a Life Coach for a Happier Life By Jeannette Samanen PhD In my work as a life coach, I find that there are five basic ingredients that create sustained happiness. Cultivate these deceptively simple behaviors and you will make your good life better. 1. Give and Receive Love Your relationships are what [...]
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An Introduction to our FREE 15 lesson course on “How To Find Happiness“.
Webster Definition For Happiness: A state of well-being and contentment; a pleasurable satisfaction.
Wikipedia Definition For Happiness:
Happiness is a state of mind or feeling characterized by contentment, love, satisfaction, pleasure, or joy.
A variety of biological, psychological, religious, and philosophical approaches have striven to define happiness and identify [...]
A comment from a reader of my previous column on Philippe Petit, the 'Man on Wire,' reminded me that sometimes, we can draw Bad from the Good.
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The pursuit of happiness...it sounds so great, why wouldn't everyone want happiness?
Maybe everyone should, but there is an unsettling idea about happiness creeping over the conversation.
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Posted by Doncrack | Posted in Happiness | Posted on 07-04-2010 |
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Hi,
I hope you're happy today and feeling fine but if not can I ask
you:
What is happiness? What would make you happy?
Here's a quick quote:
"Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony."
- Mahatma Gandhi
Being unhappy or depressed means that your life is not reflecting who you are and the values you have. This causes you pain and confusion. To be happy you need to try to live your life more in tune with who you are.
How can you enjoy the journey when you are not sure where you are going?
Imagine being the driver of a car...You need to change course and turn to get to your destination, you may even get lost but if you know where you are going and how to get there you can enjoy the journey.
Finally:
"Life is not about accomplishment; it's all about doing, participating, progressing, growing,learning."
- Mike Hernacki
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ASPIRE TO BE YOU -
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Posted by raymond | Posted in Happiness, Motivation | Posted on 02-03-2010 |
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Image by JeffOliver via Flickr There was once a couple who lived in a 80th story apartment. One day, they went for a jungle trekking. When they reached home, they found out that the lift is not working due to some technical problems. With a huge bag on each of their back and sweating all [...]
Posted by Chris Widener | Posted in Happiness, Well-Being | Posted on 23-02-2010 |
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Happiness. The pursuit of so many. In fact, we are known in America as those who live for “Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.”
But so many seem without happiness. Why is this? Is happiness truly elusive, or do we simply not know how to take hold of it? It is my contention that happiness [...]
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Posted by raymond | Posted in Happiness | Posted on 15-02-2010 |
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If you’re ready for positive change in your life (not just idle wishing and fantasizing about change) then you need to watch this short video right now… [Positive Change The Easy Way] Seriously, whether you want to lose flab, find a better job, have a bigger bank balance, or just find that special someone to [...]
Posted by Doncrack | Posted in Happiness | Posted on 12-02-2010 |
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There are negative influences to be found all around us in this world. Some people inexplicably wait for the next negative event seemingly with bated breath, whilst others, like me, do everything in their power to repel such influences.
I'm sure that you, like I, have come across people who seem to be surrounded by a black cloud of mood-dampening negativity, and the creepy feeling of that dark mist reaching its arms out to grab you makes you want to turn tail and flee! I sometimes have to stop myself from physically putting out my arms as a barrier against those dark and dreary vibes, or covering my ears so as to stop a negative droll from entering my hearing space. My body language must be screaming out, yelling at those vibes, telling them to get away from me; that I do not want to catch that contagious disease called negativity.
In my imagination, this really is what I am doing; I am holding up a stick and warding off that tenacious terrier dog, stopping it from nipping at my...
Posted by Doncrack | Posted in Happiness | Posted on 11-02-2010 |
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To feel a sense of peace is very important to the majority of human beings. Some people of course thrive upon unrest and feel that without an unsettled feeling they would not be motivated to achieve their maximum potential. But peacefulness is ultimately a state which allows one to rest and recharge their batteries. To be at peace with oneself sets the scene for a more relaxing and enjoyable life.
Yet for the majority of human beings, peacefulness is only felt for fleeting moments, providing us with a tantalizing glimpse of how we would like to feel on a regular basis. We all have the ability to feel a sense of peace; peace, after all is subjective experience. It is possible for one person to feel peace whilst in the middle of a war zone, and yet another may feel anything but peaceful whilst lying down on their own sofa.
It is clear that peacefulness is created by your attitude. It does not matter what is happening around you; what matters is how you think about it. Peace comes...
Posted by Doncrack | Posted in Happiness, Relationships, SUCCESS | Posted on 07-01-2010 |
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"There is no question that a huge infusion of wealth to relatively young people has a disastrous effect on the marriage's stability," says Bern Clare, a Manhattan divorce lawyer.
In the world of hedge fund managers one can become an overnight multi-multi-millionaire. And with this new wealth come drama. High dollar value divorces are becoming more and more common among fund managers and with them, excessive demands. Just take a look at a few:
- "A case in which the dependant spouse insisted that she needed $800,000 a month in child support payments, even though she already had an income of $7 million a year. "The judge listened calmly and found she had plenty to maintain herself. Then he ordered $100,000" a month."
- "In one recent divorce, the entire settlement was hung up on the issue of whether the former wife would be given $500,000 or $750,000 a year to cover first-class air travel."
The reason why I decided to discuss this article is because I believe wealth...
Posted by Doncrack | Posted in Happiness | Posted on 06-01-2010 |
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This article, by Camille Paglia of Salon.com, raises a number of interesting points, from politics to pop culture. One however, stuck out in my mind. Are young adults (ages 18-25) revelling in their youth too long? Paglia refers to the recent pop culture debacles of Paris Hilton and Lindsay Lohan as examples of when parents hinder the development of their children but refraining from teaching responsibility.
"What links the Lohan and Hilton cases is the weird behavior of the parents -- either flaky and dysfunctional or overbearing and coddling. The Lohan and Hilton mothers seem to reject aging by trying to keep their daughters in developmental limbo. Paris in particular seems to have become a psychic prisoner, turned into a flash-frozen marzipan doll by her belligerently benevolent mom. Neither family is typical, of course, but are the Hiltons exposing an unhealthy symbiosis in recent American family life? Adulthood keeps getting postponed for white middle-class girls, who even...
Posted by Doncrack | Posted in Happiness, SUCCESS | Posted on 04-01-2010 |
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A great article about the role email plays in modern work and life. Is it true that email "eats away at people's time, a minute at a time... [like] bleeding to death from a thousand pinpricks?"
Or is the following description a little more accurate?
"Many people who are addicted to e-mail are more correctly described as addicted to work. Lots of e-mail makes you feel important. E-mail addicts (like me) fear the empty inbox and, strangely, the potential freedom that e-mail provides. A BlackBerry can make you feel accountable at night, but it also lets you say, play golf, while still monitoring any situation that might come up. When business is conducted through e-mail, it shifts the responsibility of actually working off of the physical setting of the office and back onto you. That lack of structure, or the need to provide your own structure, can be uncomfortable. Still, you often find confident people who are immune to e-mail addiction. They just don't understand what the fuss...
I recently attended a conference focused on the unique generational shift that is currently going on. The Baby Boomers (born 1944-1962) are getting old while Generation X'rs (born 1963-1981) are taking their roles as adults, and Generation Y's (born after 1981) are entering the workforce. What does this all mean??? Society is going to change quite a bit.
Interestingly generation X is one of the smallest generations since The Depression, but is sandwiched between two of histories largest generations, the Baby Boomers and Generation Y. This is why you've heard that organizations are very concerned about the aftermath of the Baby Boomer retirement. The fear is that there will be a shortage of quality employees to not only take the roles left empty by exiting Baby Boomers but also the question of who will manage the large group of younger generation Y employees.
This put's Generation X'rs in a very unique position as the intermediaries between two very different groups that have...
Here are some tips for staying positive at work when everyone else is at play.
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Recently, I was asked to provide some tips for people who work in the veterinary industry for how to stay positive during the holidays, with one big challenge in mind: Veterinary team members often have to work when the rest of us are home for the holidays. While it's true that having to give an alpaca an enema isn't a great holiday gig (to my mind at least), it's also true that other folks working other jobs have to work when the rest of the world gets to play. So, here are some ideas for staying positive at work when everyone else is at play. (You can read the original version at the My Exceptional Veterinary Team website)
Think about who will be working this holiday season while you're spending time with your family, stuffing yourself with chocolate, cookies, turkey, or latkes. Cops, ambulance drivers and EMTs responding to accidents. Restaurant servers, sales clerks, flight attendants, and call center and hotline workers trying to help customers. Utilities...
Our bodies apparently have 10-20 times as many foreign, microbial cells in them as they have human cells, and research increasingly focuses on our colonization by these critters as a factor in our health. Are we simply Microbe Motels?
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We tend to focus more on living long than on living well. Why can't we do both?
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A recent report suggested that we prefer confident rather than diffident experts...even when the confident ones are wrong. There are two kinds of experts: the folks who are very, very confident about what they know - and the folks who are very, very aware of the limits of what they know.
A football running back is a confident expert - hit the hole, hit it fast, hit it hard. (Even the Minnesita Vikings recognize this!) Running back-style experts say things like - DRINK TWO GLASSES OF RED WINE A DAY!!!!!
A scientist is usually a tentative expert - see the data, see the limits in the data, present the highly qualified possibilities of what the data might mean if we can get more data that look a lot like the data we just reported.
Can we get people to listen to the second kind?
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So, I drank the Kool-Aid, jumped the shark, sold my first-born for a tulip. However you put it, I joined the ranks and now engage in behavior that is difficult to describe with any dignity. In times gone by, saying what I do out loud was likely to get your shins rapped with a cane, your ear yanked from its socket, and your teeth flossed with a redolent bar of Glenn's Sulphur Soap. Let's be frank and cut to the chase. I tweet.
I suppose I could say that I twitter, but that probably doesn't help me.
I joined Twitter, and I blame Psychology Today! Specifically Pamela Rutledge and Moses Ma, who recently reported on their experiences with Twitter.
Now, I am the social media equivalent of the guy at the party who keeps trying to talk about serious things while other people are trying to concentrate on their next beer pong shot or figure out whether to cue up the Taylor Hicks playlist or the Taylor Swift playlist (I have been assured that they are different...
A famous story relates the following encounter:
Three men are found smashing boulders with iron hammers. When asked what they are doing, the first man says, "Breaking big rocks into little rocks." The second man says, "Feeding my family." The third man says, "Building a cathedral."
To many of us who study and consult in occupational and organizational contexts, we would call what this third man does meaningful work.
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A well-known story relates the following encounter (adapted from Ryan, 1977):
Three men are found smashing boulders with iron hammers. When asked what they are doing, the first man says, "Breaking big rocks into little rocks." The second man says, "Feeding my family." The third man says, "Building a cathedral."
Today's column focuses on the third man, the one who saw each hammer blow as contributing to the construction of a cathedral, a home for human dreams and sacred aspirations. To many of us who study and consult in occupational and organizational contexts, we would call what this third man does meaningful work.
There are many perspectives on meaningful work, ranging from Marxist ideas about work that resists the dehumanizing influences of the Industrial Revolution to religious ideas about being called by a transcendent spirit to do Good Work in the world -- with everything in between. I have come to see meaningful work as consisting of three, central...
The Flash of Insight, The Grand Gesture, The Rousing Speech, The Last Straw. All of these are doppelgangers of The Big Thing, which too many of us wait for to come along and change our lives. The secret is, of course, that it's not coming. Worse, by waiting for The Big Thing, you could let the little things that make life rich, and accumulate into the important experiences of your life, slip away.
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When I talk to people about meaning in their lives, in their work, or in their love lives, the conversation invariably reaches a point where I can see the gears of their mind start to work furiously. This is the point in our chat where I've asked them what makes their lives feel meaningful and they start to feel like their answer isn't fancy enough. I guess it doesn't seem like enough to create strong and mutually nurturing relationships, parent a child, feel spiritualy inspired, venture forth into the world to find your niche in the vast global economy, or wrest occasional moments or serenity from the pinging, flashing pinball machine of life!
(The fact that my curiosity about what fills people's lives with meaning often provokes these kinds of responses is the leading bummer of being a meaning in life researcher!)
Right before my eyes, I can see their perspective on such things as being an inspired parent, generous lover, conscientious worker, or tranquil contemplator...
One Friday evening in January, I went to the lone, independently owned coffeeshop on my side of town to do a few hours of work. When I got there, though, I found out that the coffeeshop was going out of business. What happened next was a stirring brew of passionate leadership, meaningful work, community mobilization, with a little new social media to sweeten things up.
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In Samuel Beckett's masterpiece "Waiting for Godot," two characters anxiously wait for a man they both claim to know but whom neither would recognize. Too often, it seems like people act like Beckett's characters, passively waiting for a meaning for their lives to come up and poke them in the chest and shout, "I am here!" How can we break out of this passivity?
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Somewhere around 2500 years ago, a little argument developed among a bunch of free Greek men with too much time on their hands and too many neurons for their own good. They were trying to create a definitive description of the Good Life. Their argument stretched across several decades, and many luminaries joined in; Gorgias, Aristotle, Aristuppus, Epicurus, Epictetus, Plato, etc.
Believe it or not, their argument isn't really settled even now.
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"The tragedy of modern man is not that he knows less and less about the meaning of his own life, but that it bothers him less and less."
-Vaclav Havel-
For the sake of argument, let's say that the esteemed Vaclav Havel is right and we are bothered less and less by the question of meaning in our lives...is that bad? Several decades of research have been conducted on this question, and the evidence is strong.
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Posted by Michael F. Steger, Ph.D. | Posted in Happiness | Posted on 25-03-2009 |
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Wild-eyed Congresswoman Michelle Bachmann recently called on her constituents to get "armed and dangerous" to protect America. Congresswoman Bachmann invoked the spirit of Thomas Jefferson to urge a revolution, so we don't lose our country, you know. Who is the threat? President Barack Obama. Twice in eight years, some Americans have wondered whether the guy in the Oval Office is the president. What do these sentiments say about the meaningful life?
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A child's art is a glimpse of a hidden world. (And apparently there are no jobs for art critics in that world). Let's be honest, kid art is objectively bad. Yet, kids have the seemingly magical ability to see their self-expression for what it is, not for what it is not.
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We all have that friend who is never fazed by anything. "Hey Chip, sorry to hear you lost your job." "Oh, that's OK, it gives me more time to write my memoirs." These people drive us crazy. Their response to set-backs seems insane at best, and designed to torment us at worst. Perhaps some part of us wishes we could be so laissez-faire, but wouldn't we be missing some crucial piece of living if we didn't have to overcome hardship? Many psychologists believe that people grow through their stressful circumstances by making meaning from them.
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Meaning can be found in the strangest places. It's not just the joyful things that help us feel our lives matter; often it's the most painful things. It's a venerable paradox. The more you dive into life and love those around you, the more you risk losing when death comes. Yet, if you don't love strongly, fully, and heedlessly, life is hollowed out and is just a shadow of what it could be.
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The ubiquitous ritual of beginning conversations with strangers with some version of "Hi, I'm so-and-so. What do you do?" creates the impression that the most important thing about us is our job. Perhaps we are what we do? What happens, though, when the sacrifices you've made for your employer are repaid in worthless company stock or a pink slip?
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Psychologists don't study "The Meaning Of Life" (cue portentious music). Instead we study the meaning in life...
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