Posted by Flip Flippen | Posted in Relationships | Posted on 25-08-2010 | 
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I recently attended a meeting and only half the people who were there were really there. What’s worse is that it was an important strategy planning meeting.
Then I thought about my wife, Susan. I had recently had a discussion with her about the same thing… except that she was sharing about how much it means to her when I am “present” with her. I have come to learn that it’s important to her for me to focus on her. I have also come to understand what it means when I am not really there.
The connection between the two meetings could not have been clearer to me. The problem is that we aren’t there when we are there. How many times have you had a discussion with someone who wasn’t there? I remember a politician who was running for office and, even before he shook my hand he had already...
Posted by Lucia Grosaru | Posted in News, Relationships | Posted on 24-08-2010 |
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ScienceDaily (2010-08-23) — Relationships that start with a spark and not much else aren’t necessarily doomed from the get-go, new research suggests. Couples who became sexually involved as friends or acquaintances and were open to a serious relationship ended up just as happy as those who dated and waited. Read full article here.
You're hearing about social media everywhere. First it was blogs. Now, you're being told that you have to be on Facebook and Twitter and a whole bunch of other services that don't exactly make immediate sense. Wasn't LinkedIn supposed to be the one-stop business site of choice? What's the answer? How can you use social media to improve your success?
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My wife had a friend over recently. In the midst of chit-chat (you know how much I like that),I probed for more meaningful conversation. I asked, "How are you andJohn doing? How’s your marriage? She replied, "It’s OK, I guess.” "You guess?” I asked. "How could you not know for sure?”
She responded with an oh-too familiar scenario…
She explained, "Well, we are both doing our part. I am taking care of the kids, the house and my elder parents, and he is working long hours providing for the family. He shows up for dinner and soccergames, so I think we are doing fine.” I responded, "Sounds like you are both performing your roles as domestic partners, but what about your relationship? How is that going?” "Well, life is so busy I think we are doing the best we can,” she said.
"That’s dangerous,” I warned. "What do you mean?” she asked.Then I drew out this diagram on a napkin. (see figure)
“Here is what happens if you don’t realize there is a third ‘person’ that needs to be cared for. Both of you are doing your part and you do it for 10, 20 or more years. You are living together, raising a family, ‘doing your part’ just fine, but this third entity is never (or rarely) cared for, fed, nurtured or nourished. It gets weak and in many cases withers and dies. You wake up 20 years later. While you are good roommates and you might genuinely care for each other, your romantic relationship has starved… to death. All the while you thought you were ‘doing fine.’ ”
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Posted by Remez Sasson | Posted in Happiness, Relationships, Work | Posted on 06-07-2010 |
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5 Secrets from a Life Coach for a Happier Life By Jeannette Samanen PhD In my work as a life coach, I find that there are five basic ingredients that create sustained happiness. Cultivate these deceptively simple behaviors and you will make your good life better. 1. Give and Receive Love Your relationships are what [...]
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I just finished writing my commentary for our forthcoming SUCCESS Audio Series issue that is based on developing professional and other relationships. I thought you might enjoy the insight of these thoughts as well. Here are six ways to give you the relationship edge in business and in life.
Here is tip No. 1 and maybe the most important one of all…
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I once attended an event featuring Keith Ferrazzi about the power of lifeline relationships. The ones that help you achieve success in business and life. Keith’s advice, “It’s important to build your dream team.”
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Posted by Flip Flippen | Posted in Leadership, Relationships | Posted on 26-03-2010 |
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One of the most defining behaviors of consistent high performers that we study such as Gary Kelly, president and CEO of Southwest Airlines, is internal drive. I know that may not surprise you, but let me tell you how critical it is. On our proprietary executive assessment tool, Gary’s self-assessment and his 360-degree assessments were above the 90th percentile, which means he is well above average on his need to accomplish tasks, to go above and beyond, and to spend his time wisely.
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Posted by Doncrack | Posted in Relationships | Posted on 15-01-2010 |
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We spend a lot of instance pondering how to make things correct in our relationships. We ofttimes put a lot of effort into “fixing” things; into margin them into what we feel we need. But perhaps the most important conception of a relation is ofttimes overlooked--choosing the correct partner. Although grouping crapper change and acquire together, indeed you must, choosing poorly at the start makes your long-term chances for success much less likely.
It sounds easy right? You undergo what (and who) you like. You don’t requirement some systematic approach or dating assist to verify you how to opt a partner! Like some things in life, it’s more complicated than you care to admit. If you opt wisely, you module change together over time. You crapper learn from each other and and prosper as you grow. If you opt poorly, you module slowly acquire unconnected as you both change. Most of us hit seen the results of these poor choices in life, either in our own lives, or in the lives of...
Posted by Doncrack | Posted in Relationships | Posted on 14-01-2010 |
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Love is one of the large gifts we hit to provide to others and to receive. Unconditional fuck is rare and quite exceptional. Those who can fuck unconditionally hit a grace about them that is beyond what can be place into words.
Almost everyone has felt 'conditional' love. \"I fuck you, as daylong as you....\" As daylong as you are pretty, or skinny, or provide gifts, or are passive, or are strong.... The itemize goes on. I would guess that everyone has been shocked by a condition that was attached to fuck that you thought was unconditional.
Yes, I am an idealist! When I was younger, I would try to fuck every person in the world. I would fall asleep and imagine the net bigger and bigger. I imagined all kinds of people, beatific guys, intense guys, people I disagreed with, people I'd agree with if I knew them. I did this every night for a daylong time.
I stopped doing that at some point, because I realized that I do hit conditions on fuck - not with everyone, but certainly with...
Posted by Doncrack | Posted in Relationships | Posted on 13-01-2010 |
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Sometimes you foregather someone, and you foregather undergo you same them. You may not undergo how or why, but these are people that you are so comfortable with, it's same meeting your long lost twin.
Conversely, there are those you take an instant dislike to. In either housing I'm conversation most strong emotions, not the general meeting of people, most of which entail general feelings, not strong ones.
It's interesting, because I've noticed that when I foregather the first kind of person, I never kibosh liking them, and when I foregather the second kind of person, I never totally kibosh disliking them.
My prizewinning friend and I met the first way - we met apiece another and directly liked apiece other. It was same we recognized apiece other, and hit been prizewinning friends since. We've been finished so some ups and downs together, but we both undergo that there is no another relationship same ours in our life. She is more same beloved family to me than some another...
Posted by Doncrack | Posted in Happiness, Relationships, SUCCESS | Posted on 07-01-2010 |
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"There is no question that a huge infusion of wealth to relatively young people has a disastrous effect on the marriage's stability," says Bern Clare, a Manhattan divorce lawyer.
In the world of hedge fund managers one can become an overnight multi-multi-millionaire. And with this new wealth come drama. High dollar value divorces are becoming more and more common among fund managers and with them, excessive demands. Just take a look at a few:
- "A case in which the dependant spouse insisted that she needed $800,000 a month in child support payments, even though she already had an income of $7 million a year. "The judge listened calmly and found she had plenty to maintain herself. Then he ordered $100,000" a month."
- "In one recent divorce, the entire settlement was hung up on the issue of whether the former wife would be given $500,000 or $750,000 a year to cover first-class air travel."
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I hate chitchat. Hate it.
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